Midterms

I had my second midterm a few hours ago and I must say it was a lot easier then I thought it was going to be. I was stressing out all week studying for this test and it was easy. It was a lot of work but easy. I had to write three essays and answer 20 questions all in under an hour. My hand was killing me after it was over. Now I have another midterm on thursday!

Strange Love

I was watching a show called “Taboo: strange love”, it is about people who have uncommon relationships. The first person they discussed was a man who was married to a life size doll. He calls the doll his wife and kisses her, makes out with her, dresses her, cleans her, etc. One of the things I found odd was that he said he liked having her as a wife because he can ignore her and not feel guilty about it. Another man has 10 doll wives and he considers them better than real people. He says that the reason he has dolls is because he is unable to build relationships with real people. When he brings home a new doll it is pretty odd. He talks to the doll and introducers her to the rest of the dolls. One of the psychologists on the show says that some men have these dolls because they can be controlled and limits the emotions of the men. I agree with this. Men have the tendency to be the dominant one and like to have control. I also see how this type of relationship with a doll can hinder a person’s ability to interact with real women even more. If you are used to controlling a woman (the doll) you will want to have that same control if you ever become part of a real relationship with a real person.

The second relationships they discussed were arranged marriages between children in Napal. Two 7 year olds were shown getting married. The narrator explained how in this one community marriage has nothing to do with love but with money. After the children are married they go back to their life before marriage and don’t even spend much time together. When they are mature enough to consimate their relationship that is when they move in together. It is suggested that arranged marriages are becoming less and less popular because these people are becoming educated. One of the teenage boys who just moved in with his wife says that he is ready to put an end to arranged marriages even though he himself is in one. I personally could not imagine being in an arranged marriage. I think it is important and a human right to be able to pick who we want to have as a life partner and shouldn’t be a decision people make for us based on money.

Another couple they followed was from Sydney, Australia. They were an unmarried couple who lived together and were committed to each other. The only strange thing about their relationship was that they had negotiated affairs. Each one of them was allowed to sleep with other people as long as there was no intimacy between them and the other people. The other person also had to meet the person partner. The couple said this keeps their relationship stronger because they get to have control over what their partner is doing with the other person. I think that this type of relationship can lead to disaster. What if you partner ends up falling for one of these people that you bring into the relationship? Sure there is no intimacy but they still can develop feelings for the other person. I also think I would be extremely jealous if I knew my partner was sleeping with someone else besides me, even if I was doing the exact same thing.

I hate group work, seriously

Ok so yesterday we had to meet in our groups for my abnormal psychology class. Only three of us were there and boy did it get heated. One of the girls in my group is a lot older then the rest of us and likes to think she is the leader. She is the type of person who thinks she knows everything and she is never wrong. Turns out she was. Our topic is stress and this girl told us we needed to research acute stress and PTSD. We believed her because she talked to the professor. well yesterday we all talked to the professor and found out the girl got it wrong. We have to talk about stress over all not just those two parts of it. Our presentation is due in 3 weeks and I am seriously freaking out.

Also this girl doesn't listen. She is very aggressive and if you try to say something she doesn't agree with she gets very defensive. She is still trying to do things her way but the rest of us seem to be on the same page. The good thing is we get to score each other at the end so it should even out.

Stats

Yesterday I had to take a small quiz on stats in my psych critical thinking class. Then we discussed how people use stats to influence people. One of the things we discussed was tooth paste. I remember seeing ads that say something like “63% of dentist recommend this tooth paste”. When you hear that you think wow it must be good if 63% of dentist recommend it. But really that is like 5 out of 7. You also have to think about who they are asking. Are these dentist that get this product for free? Also did they only ask 7 people?
I think that from now on whenever I hear an ad that talks about stats I will have to listen to them a little better.

Kids Birthday party

So on Saturday I went to a birthday party for my best friends nephew. I got there at about 2pm but we didn’t go down to the party till about 2:30. I haven’t been to a kids party in years so I had to get used to it. It was really loud and there were kids running around everywhere. My friend and I were in charge of pictures and video. We spent the time taking pictures and getting video of the kids playing games. Some of the kids were kind of crazy. One little boy when it came time to hit the piñata went nuts. That kid seems to have some bent up frustrations. After the party we watched some movie and then I went home. When I got home I had to study for an upcoming test.

On Sunday there was another birthday, my grandmas! I started the day by going to buy her a pie, ice cream, and flowers. We didn’t go to her house until 5pm so I spend most of the time before that cooking dinner. I made scalloped potatos, lemon chicken with an avocado/sour cream/lemon sauce and bisquits. It was soooo yummy! When we went to my grandmas we ate dinner and then had pie. The pie was sooooo good too. Then it was time for presents. My grandma doesn’t like to get presents. She says she has too much stuff as it is but we always get her something anyways. After talking awhile we went home and I had to do more homework for my critical thinking class.

I know I got a little behind on my post but for some reason I haven’t been able to log on to my blog for the last two days. Oh well.

Crappy night

What a crappy night. I went to sleep last night at about 11:30pm. This is fairly early for me. The reasons I went to bed so early is because I wanted to wake up early so I could get some stuff done before I go to a birthday party. Well early in the day my brothers girlfriend sent me a message asking if I knew where my brother was, I told her no but I knew his phone was dead so that’s why he wasn’t answering his phone. They ended up getting into it over the phone once he got home. She was accusing him of cheating and a lot of other crap when really he went to the convention center with one of his long time friends. After charging his phone for like 20 mins he left again.
At 1:30am my phone starts ringing, and it’s my brother’s girlfriend. As soon as I answer I can tell she is drunk. She starts asking me if he is at home and I honestly didn’t know so I had to get up and go look, I told her no and that his phone was dead again so that’s why he wasn’t answering his phone. I went back to sleep only to wake up to my brother texting me saying she was pissed off and she would probably call me again so I should just put my phone on silent. I did and finally went back to sleep. Then at 3am my brother is knocking on my door asking to borrow my charger and is complaining about his girlfriend. When he does finally let me go back to get it is 3:30. I wake up at 7:30am only to hear him and her fighting once again. I don’t get why my brother stays with someone who doesn’t trust him.

Fear

I was talking to one of my classmates yesterday before class started. We were talking about how some people are terrified of flying because they fear crashing. Really there aren’t many plane crashes but the reason people fear them is because if your plane crashes you pretty much have no chance of surviving. This brought on a conversation about our fears in general. One classmate was telling us how she is terrified of the water and how “If my plane was falling in the water I would have a heart attack before we even hit the water because I would be terrified of what would happen if I survive the crash and am forced to be in the water”. I found this to be very amusing.